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Am I a Good Father?

With the goal to be the father he wishes he had, a determined, loving father embarks on a challenging journey of self-reflection and growth to define what it means to be a good man and father in today's world.

Greetings, my name is Rah, a father of nine children, founder of Abimilechh Foundation and host of the Fatha Torch Podcast.

After becoming a father in 1996, I set out to be the dad I always wished I had.

At first, I struggled with emotional traumas and mental health issues due to an inability to cope with loss, grief and barriers imposed by myself and others.

I was once plagued by the question, "Am I a good father?" I asked myself if I was a good man and what it meant to be a good father.

After much thought and research, I realized that being a good father means having principles and characteristics such as protecting, loving, reasoning and being patient. It also means being willing to learn and humble yourself, while also being teachable and understanding of your child's mother.

Being a good father is more than just providing and setting boundaries - it's about being honest, understanding and recognizing your role in your child's life. I now strive to be the best father I can be and to leave a legacy of love, respect and understanding.

In this episode, you will learn the following: 1. What are the characteristics of a good father? 2. How can men build relationships with women who have children from previous relationships? 3. What makes a bad father and how can bad fathers make amends?

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Chapter Summaries:

[00:00:00] Fatha Torch is a podcast to help new and renewed fathers cope with anxiety and stress. My mission is to help you reclaim your power and ease your concerns about being a father in today's social climate. What do we do to define a good father?

[00:00:43] Today's episode "Are you a good father?" What is the definition or characteristic of meaning of a good dad? To be a good man, you must have these principles.

[00:04:40] Most of the women or most women that we are engaged with carry 100% of the past relationships. As manhood, man of the house, you must know how to set the laws and rules. A good man, a good father first is patient and always listening. And always willing to learn.

[00:12:28] Bad fathers are the ones who do not want to learn or have not learned their lesson. Good father, bad father, you are still a father. You still have a chance and have the ability to be the best of the best father that you wish you had.

[00:20:05] The biggest trend that I see now with fathers and fatherhood is that they got such a fight to to try to be in the children's life. Some of us fall for it. And we end up hurt, broke, it, destruct, bitter, angry. A good father, a bad father is still a father.

[00:26:19] Fathers must get with other fathers. You never raise a child by yourself. It's always a village. But because we've fallen short on this, especially our black men, our brown men, we are falling short in the elders department. We can upgrade our fathering skills.

[00:28:51] Let's make 23 the year of reconcile. The year of forgiveness. The year of just doing right. Check me out again next Sunday. www.Fathatorch. com

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